舍己、背起十字架是什么意思？

问题：“牧师您好，我非常关心耶稣对门徒说的话：‘不舍己，背起他的十字架来跟从我的，就不能作我的门徒。’我看到很多基督徒买豪车，住豪宅，享受这个世界所能提供的一切快乐，似乎对耶稣对门徒说的话没有信念，甚至没有思考。您能澄清或解释一下吗？舍己和背起十字架是什么意思？舍己什么？耶稣在说什么？” 

讨论：

蒂姆：好吧，兰德尔。我认为你一开始的假设就是错误的。你说你看到这么多基督徒买豪车、住豪宅，尽情享受这个世界所能提供的一切快乐，却对耶稣所说的话毫无信念？ 

让我告诉你一件事。那些对耶稣的话没有任何信念的人不是基督徒。耶稣基督，他不是说过吗？“你们若有了我的道，又遵守，就证明你们是我的门徒。”基督讲了一个比喻，一个把房子建在岩石上的人，另一个把房子建在沙地上的人。把房子建在岩石上的人是听从他的话并照做的人！如果这里有人生活在沙地上，当洪水来临时，他们就会被冲走。 

事实是：否定自我意味着什么？我们否定什么？耶稣基督在路加福音 14:33 中说：“你们无论什么人，若不撇下一切所有的，就不能作我的门徒。”在路加福音中，有马太。基督对他说了什么？他只是说：“马太，跟从我。”你知道经文说他做了什么吗？他放弃了一切。我们刚刚在其中一个（圣经研究）中谈到了那个富有的年轻统治者。猜猜怎么着？他来到基督面前。你知道基督对他说了什么吗？“放弃一切。”他愿意吗？不愿意。他忧愁地走了，他被诅咒了。彼得说：“主啊，我们放弃了一切！我们会得到什么？”你知道吗，彼得并没有夸张。他放弃了一切。这就是基督的要求。 

这是什么意思？听着。除非你放弃你所拥有的一切，否则你不能成为他的门徒。你还记得吗？当我们在处理罗马书第 10 章时？必须呼求主，称他为主。必须承认。必须口里承认。心里相信他是主！当你来到基督面前，称他为主时，你会说：“主啊，你是主人。你是一切的主人。我拥有的一切。我所有的家人，我所有的时间，我所有的自我。我所有的财产，我所有的钱，所有的一切。它们都是你的。”它们永远都是他的，但这就是悔改：这是对这一事实的顺服。这是对这一现实的顺服。你知道我们发现了什么吗？我们把一切都摆在桌面上。“主啊，这都是你的。” 

你知道我们发现他做了什么吗？他说：“好的。”“用那个，用那个，这都是我的。千山上的牛都是我的。所有的金银都是我的。”这就是他说的。但是他说。你知道他说了什么吗？他说：“现在你已经信任我了，彼得是你的，保罗是你的，这都是你的！整个世界，都是你的！”这就是他说的。这一切都是为了他的荣耀而使用。 

如果我们看着桌子上的某样东西，说：“我不能用它来荣耀神。”那你猜怎么着？你不会使用它。你会放弃它。这又回到我们之前谈到的，就在哥林多前书第 10 章的末尾。“无论做什么，或吃或喝……”你知道那是什么意思吗？这意味着他给你食物，你说：“感谢主！”你如何用它来荣耀他？嗯，这是一种方式。你为此感谢他。你为此赞美他！无论你做什么，无论是食物，无论是饮料，无论是你穿的衣服，你都在感谢他，你用它来荣耀他。你知道吗？经文说如果你有两件衣服，有人需要，你会怎么做？你把一件送给别人。这就是你用它来荣耀他的方式。你有钱吗？圣经怎么说？如果你看到有需要的兄弟姐妹，你会怎么做？你会帮助他们。他说：“用这些钱照顾你自己的家人吗？”是的。照顾自己家人的人比什么更糟糕？比异教徒更糟糕。所以他说用这些钱照顾你的家人。但不仅仅是照顾你的家人，如果你看到另一个家庭有需要，你也要分享。特别关心寡妇和孤儿。照顾好。

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Question: “Hi Pastor, I have a real concern about what Jesus said to His disciples: ‘He that is not willing to deny himself, take up his cross, and follow Me cannot be my disciple.’ I see so many Christians buying luxurious cars, living in mansions, treating themselves with every pleasure that this world can offer, and it seems as if there’s no conviction or even thought about what Jesus said to His disciples. Can you please clarify or explain? What does it mean to deny yourself and take up your cross? And deny yourself what? What was Jesus talking about?” 

Discussion:

Tim: Well, Randall. I think you have a faulty assumption to begin with. You say that you see so many Christians buying luxurious cars and living in mansions, treating themselves with every pleasure that this world can offer without any conviction about what Jesus said? 

Let me tell you something. People that live without any conviction of what Jesus said are not Christians. Jesus Christ, did He not say? “If you have My words and keep them, it’s by that you prove to be My disciples.” Christ told the parable about the man that built his house on a rock and the man that built his house on the sand. The man that built his house on the rock is the man that hears His word and does it! If you’ve got people here that are living their lives on sand, when the flood comes they’re gonna be washed away. 

The fact is: What does it mean to deny yourself? What do we deny? Well, Jesus Christ said this in Luke 14:33 “Anyone of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be My disciple.” In Luke’s gospel, you have Matthew. What did Christ say to him? He just said, “Matthew, follow me.” You know what it says he did? He left all. We just talked about the rich young ruler in one of these other ones (Bible studies). Guess what? He came to Christ. You know what Christ said to him? “Forsake it all.” Was he willing? Nope. And he went away sorrowful, and he went away damned. Peter says: “Lord, we left everything! What are we gonna have?” And you know what, Peter wasn’t exaggerating. He had left everything. That’s what Christ demands. 

What does that mean? Listen to this. Unless you forsake all that you have, you can’t be His disciple. Do you remember this? When we were dealing with Romans chapter 10? There must be a calling upon the Lord as Lord as Lord. There must be an acknowledging. There must be with the mouth a confession. A believing in the heart that He is Lord! When you come to Christ as Lord, you’re saying: “Lord, you’re Master. You’re Master of it all. All that I have. All my family, all my time, all my self. All my possessions, all my money, all of it. They’re Yours.” It’s always true that they’re His, but that’s what repentance is: It’s submission to that fact. It’s submission to that reality. And you know what we find? We put it all out there on the table. “Lord, it’s all Yours.” 

And you know what we find He does? He says: “Okay.” “Use that, and use that, it’s all Mine. The cattle on a thousand hills are Mine. All the silver and the gold is Mine.” That’s what He says. But He says. You know what He says? He says: “Now that you’ve trusted Me, Peter is yours, and Paul is yours, it’s all yours! The whole world, it’s yours!” That’s what He says. And it’s all to be used for His glory. 

And if we look at something on that table and we say: “I can’t use that for His glory.” Then guess what? You don’t use it. You give it up. It comes back to what we talked about before right there at the end of 1 Corinthians 10. “Whatsoever ye do, whether ye eat or drink…” You know what that means? It means He gives you food, and you say: “Thank you Lord!” How do you use it for His glory? Well, that’s one way. You thank Him for it. You praise Him for it! And whatever you do, whether it’s the food, whether it’s the drink, whether it’s the clothes you put on your back, you’re thanking Him for it, and you’re using it for His glory. And you know what? It says that if you have two tunics, and somebody has need, what do you do? You give one away. And that’s how you use it for His glory. You have money? What does Scripture say? If you see a brother or sister in need, what do you do? You help them. Does He say: “Take care of your own family with it?” Yes. He that does take care of his own family is worse than a what? An infidel. So He says take care of your family with it. But not only take care of your family, if you see another family that has need, well you share it over there. Especially give concern to widows and orphans. Take care.

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